February 21, 2012, 10:21 pm
Planning a romantic, memorable wedding ceremony doesn’t have to break your wedding budget! These five tips for brides and grooms are simple, effective, and financially free. Here, Judith Sherven, PhD and Jim Sniechowski, PhD – the bestselling authors of four relationship books – describe how to plan the wedding of your dreams.
“We know you want your wedding gown to be gorgeous, your flowers beautiful, and your party joyous, and they will be,” says this husband-and-wife psychology team. “But will your guests – and will you – remember those things several weeks later? As disappointing as this may seem, that’s not what people will be talking about even the day after your wedding.”
Here, these relationship experts describe what your friends and family members will remember weeks and even years after your wedding. For more wedding planning tips, read their books – The Smart Couple’s Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams: Planning Together for Less Stress and More Joy.
5 Ways to Make Your Wedding Memorable
Your unique wedding ceremony, your special vows, and your creative personal touches will make your wedding unlike any other. You don’t need to break your wedding budget to make your ceremony truly exceptional and memorable! These wedding tips will reveal the depth of your heartfelt commitment and your strong emotional connection.
1. Write secret love letters to each other and read them during the ceremony. Reading your love letters adds an element of surprise and freshness into your wedding ceremony that neither of you can predict, and opens you both to new emotional connections that will make your ceremony extra memorable. And, it will move your guests to deepen their understanding of and support for your marriage.
2. Share some of your favorite memories from the early weeks of your romance. When you include a bit of your love and relationship history, you not only remind yourselves how much deeper your bond is now, you also allow your guests a peak into the beginnings of the love you are vowing to enjoy for the rest of your lives.
3. Include a few reasons you love each other in your vows. Write your own wedding vows so they speak directly to what you cherish about each other, and about the marriage you are creating. Nothing speaks more directly from your hearts than sharing some of the many ways you love each other. You may want to include in your vows how you’ll handle conflict as a married couple, to support and grow your love.
4. Plan your wedding reception as an ongoing testimony of your love, not as a guest-centered party. Too many engaged couples act as if it’s their job to make their reception a tribute to their guests! It’s not. See to it that your reception centers around the two of you, with special toasts, dances, family acknowledgments, memories, and other events that celebrate you and your new marriage. And, protect against alcohol from wrecking your special day. It’s your wedding celebration, not a wild party.
5. Spend time on your honeymoon sharing your favorite memories of your wedding day. So often newly married couples run off to their honeymoon expecting non-stop physical intimancy, late nights dancing, and endless champagne. But the truth is, you may be exhausted from all the months of wedding planning and the wedding festivities themselves. On your honeymoon, take a day or two to lounge around in bed, snuggled and cozy reviewing your special day, napping, and then laughing about this wedding memory or that, and then napping, waking up for a bit of food, going back to bed to review a few more favorite memories, and then napping, and cuddling, and . . . we know that this time will also become one of your favorite memories of your love relationship!
When you express your unique love in front of friends and family at your wedding ceremony, it will bring treasured memories you and your guests will talk about for years to come.
Article by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen, creator of Quips and Tips.